It’s been an interesting week. I feel like I’ve written that so many times. I’m coming to believe that I must live an interesting life. Or maybe my bar for interesting is really low. I’m not sure, but life is definitely an adventure. I really enjoy my life, even when it’s hard, even when it seems impossible, even when absolutely everything is going left… because you know it isn’t going right. – Lol! I’m sorry, I had to. That’s my kind of humor right there.
So, I feel the need to share this week about something that might not be considered completely biblical, but it is important. You have to stay positive. Thinking positively, leads to positive results. And, I believe my happiness is directly linked to my perception of life. Which is something I taught myself. I didn’t used to be positive. I used to hate life and be angry at the world. I used to be a little ball of rage and hate – all the time. Life was unfair, I had gotten the short end of the stick, and nothing was ever going to go my way. But, years ago, some really tragic stuff happened. Years ago, I went through various life-altering experiences that were the by-products of the choices I had made, that were so significant that I couldn’t continue to go that way. And, although, I’m not comfortable enough to speak about all of that. I can tell you that I had to start thinking positively to get out of it. What had to change, was me.
So, I’m going to let you in on a little secret, I set the bar low on positivity, and that has been my main standard ever since. Although I definitely have grown from there, when I’m feeling really down in the dumps, or everything’s going left, I resort back to my original standard. And, to share that standard with you, I’ll tell you a cute little story.
Years ago, my dad showed up at my house unexpectedly. And, when I answered the door, he just started regurgitating his upset feelings and how upset he was to me (and if his anger had been valid, I would’ve listened, but he was all bent out of shape over nothing.) So, I stopped him, put my hand up between us, and said, “I’m having a good day, if you want to come hang out that’s fine, but I’m not going to listen to this, you’ll have to find something else to talk about while you’re here.” At which point, he got that deer-in-the-headlights look for a second, he thought about it. Then, he said, “Ok, I would like to hang out.” So, I welcomed him in, and he sat down and started hanging out. Some time had passed, and suddenly he asks, “What made your day so good?” “Excuse me?” “Well, you said earlier, you had a good day, what made your day so good?” “oh, well, nothing really. But, nobody is in the hospital, nobody has died, and nobody’s in jail, so, it’s a good day.” He was pretty shocked. And, replied, “That’s a pretty low bar for good days.” And, I said, “Well, if you set a really low bar, you have a lot more good days.”
And, it’s true. There are bad moments during your day, but they only take up a fraction of that time. And, you can even have huge sections of your day that are rough, but two things to keep in mind, is that You control how you respond to them, and at any given point, You can get over them and turn your day around.
A couple weeks ago, I was having a particularly rough day because things were not going my way. Our ability to move was at a standstill and completely dependent on things that were out of my control. And, I had to wait for a response. I was livid. So, I packed up my family and we headed out to the farm to take care of our garden for a while, while we waited. By the time we were done weeding and chatting, I was much calmer, and right as we were getting ready to leave, we got the call that everything could move forward as almost originally planned. But, it still wasn’t a bad day, it was a rough few moments, it was infuriating for a time, but we did get to work in the garden, see my family, we were productive, and by the time everything was said-and-done, it all worked out. I did keep telling myself that within 2 weeks, one way or another, this would all be over.
These last 12 weeks have been a roller coaster for me. Work has been intense, there is a virus out there, we’ve had to move. But, I have technically have had 0 bad days. Rough moments, intense times, but no bad days. Because it’s all about perspective and positivity. And, it’s not something I think we come by naturally. We have to work at it. And, if you have to set the bar really low to help you get started, then do it. It’s worth it. It completely changes your outlook on life, and it really helps you have more good days and starts changing the way you look at the world.
Dear Heavenly Father, thank you! Thank you for your many blessings. Thank you for helping us grow from trial to trial, and grace to grace. Thank you that you only want good things for us. That you only wish to bless us and to lift us up! That You are an AMAZING GOD, that watches over us and protects us. That you love us in all of our flaws, and that you only wish to make us more like your son, through a love and guidance that only you can give. That You are the amazing good Father that watches his flock, guides his people, and keeps his children. That you love us so unconditionally. That You give us a wholeness and fullness at life. And through You and Your Son, that we may win life. Life everlasting, and the life here. That you bless us each and every day, that all our days are good. Thank you for all that you do for us Father, and all that you will continue to do. IN JESUS’ NAME!! AMEN!!